Here's the absolute best way to support a loved one in sober living

Thoughts from Jeanie Gschweng, General Manager of Clean & Sober Transitional Living

I’ve been asked what one bit of advice I’d share with parents (or other adult family members) whose adult children are residents here at CSTL. The answer that comes right to mind probably isn’t what you’d expect, but here it is: Back off.

And that’s a hard thing to do. Parents (or siblings, perhaps) are so accustomed to being in crisis and chaos because they’ve been fighting the drug and alcohol battle for years. So, when their loved one arrives here, the family remains on high alert. They are tied to their phones in case something goes south or someone goes missing. They are vigilant, and they are exhausted.

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So THAT'S how it works! Here's what science says about recovery housing

Thoughts from Don Troutman, Founder, Clean & Sober Transitional Living

If you know someone who struggles with alcohol or drugs (and who doesn’t?), you probably wonder why they don’t just stop their excessive drug or alcohol consumption. “Why don’t they just STOP drinking?” is a common question – or plea – among family members whose loved ones are floundering. And if their loved ones get sober, the next question may well be “Why can’t they STAY sober?”

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Getting from great to grateful, CSTL-style

Thoughts from Don Troutman, Founder, Clean & Sober Transitional Living

Counting the blessings of a very busy year, I am grateful to be able to offer a place where people who’ve navigated life for years with alcohol or drugs as their North Star can learn healthy new ways to manage life. Over the years, we’ve fine-tuned Mad House to support, reign in and inspire everyone in their recovery (even when they don’t want to or like it). We’ve given them the boundaries they lacked, the boosts they needed, the reasons to get up and show up, and the structure that supports their recovery with integrity.

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Giving thanks for a place where residents are wanted, valued and accepted

Thoughts from Jeanie Gschweng, General Manager of Clean & Sober Transitional Living

When I first arrived at Clean & Sober Transitional Living in 2004, I had been totally ostracized by my entire family. I had little contact with my son, and his father wouldn’t permit him to come here to spend time with me. The holidays were especially tough: days or even weeks often passed by before I was permitted to celebrate any holiday with my children. I didn’t have anybody, but I certainly wasn’t alone in that experience.

Those early years, many CSTL residents didn’t have somewhere else to go on the holidays. Maybe they weren’t invited to join their families. Perhaps there were trust issues that still needed repair. Maybe it wasn’t safe for them to go home. But they – and I – weren’t alone on Thanksgiving. We were part of the CSTL family, and we hosted a huge meal every Thanksgiving. Residents and their families and friends were – and are- welcome, as we continue this tradition today.

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